6.21.2013

5 Months: Arguments are healthy

In the 5 months that I've been married I can say that the most valuable lesson I've learned is...

1. Arguments are healthy --- Chris and I argue very rarely. I think that is because we typically agree on many  things. We share the same ideals, values, and opinions. However, our logic, is definitely different. I think somethings are best not to be done, and he does not share the same view point, and vice versa. While we do not agree and sometimes argue about our logic, someone normally is able to buckle down from their horse and ride on the other's horse and saddle. Guess who it ends up being most of the time? (If you guessed that it would not be, COOOOORRECT!).

It has been very hard for me to deal with the fact that our logic is quite different and it is most definitely based on our upbringings. I like that I can point the finger to something that is not him, because at the end of the day, we are who we are based on our experiences. When it comes to something that is out of the ordinary, or foreign, it takes a while for us to get accustomed because, really, how do you change a lifetime way of thinking? It's difficult, and here we are, 27 years on earth, coexisting with some similar ideas of logic, and some very different as well.

Luckily for me, I have had patience in dealing with what has been very different, but that doesn't mean we haven't argued much. We've argued plenty about these specific things but we are always able to go to bed with each other and wake up to a new morning. We do a constant series of resolving the argument until it's completely gone. Normally it ends with laughter, and that  laughter is always so warming for the marriage. A nice warm blanket of hope that we will make it to 50 years of marriage :)

That's all for now.
Mrs. Muli