9.10.2013

A Woman's Checklist - Updated from 2009.

I first blogged this on June 22, 2009. Today is September 10, 2013... I just wanted to do a mental check of where I am now, 4 years later... ;) 
[*** written June 22, 2009 ***
No this is NOT Maya Aneglou's best poem ever, she didn't even write this poem as a matter of fact. It was written by Pamela Redmond Satan. LoL. Although this isn't really the OFFICIAL checklist of things a woman should have, I do concur with some of these things. ;) Let's see how many checks I get at the end LoL.]

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE   ....
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to... 

[no check. I def don't have that type of money yet. LoL!]
This is quite humorous to me because just last month, I had this. However, I'm not renting on my own since I'm married. The Hubster and I successfully moved out, purchased furniture debt-free, and are now living in our own apartment. This was a CHECK last month. This month, it's a different story LOL.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE  .... .
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
[no check... oh wait, you mean the freakum dress? i got that! hahaha. CHECK!]
Assuming I'm at home, check. Considering I have the man of my dreams? DOUBLE CHECK.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE   ......
a youth she's content to leave behind....
[check. I'm VERY content leaving my legacy behind. lmbo. ok ok, not really a legacy, but I'm content leaving my youthful days behind]
Check. Still satisfied.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...  ...
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age.... 
[half check. I don't necessarily agree with this, however, I do think one should be able to tell a good life story]
LOL I still don't agree, but I've had a few juicy moments in my young adult life ;) CHECK

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE . ...........
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
[check. no check. and check check check. LoL. up on game! - mostly lol]
Check (although they're not mine), check again (still not mine), and uncheck (I hate bras) although I will say that I have a leopard print one, and leopard is pretty much the equivalent of lace.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .... ..
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
[check and check. defeinitely have a lot of those]
Check. It's wonderful having both in one. My husband,

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..  ....
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her
family...
[check. With a FATTY bill that needs to be paid. LoL!]
4 years later, all the furniture I had in 2009 has been paid off and is now the "furniture previously owned by a family member" sitting in my Mom, Uncle, and Brother's house. I now own all of my furniture, paid in full at purchase. God is so good! CHECK.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..  ...  .
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal
that will make her guests feel honoured...
[no check. Since I've only lived with 3 other people, I've only had the 4 ppl sets. haha. but I'll gett to workin on that.]
This is funny too. Because my Husby and I live alone, we've only shopped for 4-6 place settings. In due time I know we will move up to an 8-place-setting life, however, we are functioning with a 6-seater table, with only 2 seats occupied during dinner time. The other 4 seats are either collecting dust, or serving as a shelf for my school books and class materials. So, UNCHECK.

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .  .... .
a feeling of control over her destiny...
[check. I was born with that feeling.]
Double check. I concur with my 2009 answer.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..  ..... .
how to fall in love without losing herself.
[no check. I'm a wreck. HA! LoL. It's all good, I'm gettin' back!]
Hmmm, considering I've gained roughly 15lbs since I got married (8 months ago) I'll uncheck this LOL.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... ........
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship...
[check. check. and super check. I got skillz man!]
Check, DOUBLE CHECK, and CHECKETY CHECK.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.  .....
when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
[check. Yes Lord, thank you for that wisdom I always asked for!]
Check. And check. Wisdom is still important to me 4 years later.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.  ..... ..
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
[check. I'm content with the way I look, and if ever I am not, I will do something about it. :) and Momz and Pops? I wouldn't change their nature for the world]
My answer in 2009 makes me smile. I remember growing into loving my body in 2009, because I had gained so much weight and was so incredibly over trying to please everyone else about the way I looked. I was happy, and I still am today. CHECK.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. ........
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...
[check. LoL!!!]
Haha, yes, check.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW. ...........
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
[no check. still getting there. LoL.]
CHECK. I'm well within my views of the world to not go to certain places anymore. 

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. ...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
[check. I know how to, and honestly, I like it. :) but I enjoy the company too.]
2010 was my year of solitude (unbeknownst to me at the time of blogging this). I didn't live alone, but I did many of things alone, go to megachurch services alone, eat at restaurants alone, shop alone, etc, etc. I have never felt so much spiritual growth in my life. All of this alone time made me value myself so much more. It confirmed how confident I was in my self. It allowed me to build upon my own strengths, courage, and esteem. It was a wonderful year of silence, solitude, and change. CHECK.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..  .....
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...
[check. I've learned the hard way on several occasions, but I cannot control people's mouths or opinions, and I will never try.]
Yep. Check.EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... ....
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table...
or a charming inn in the woods....
when her soul needs soothing...
[no check... yet. Still trying to figure that out, since most of my soul healing begins within me.]
Dinner with my husband... at my own kitchen table. Oh... and manicure/pedicure chairs hehe. CHECK.


EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW... ....
what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...
[half check. I think I have a good estimate of time in that sense. lol]
Sometimes I think I'm superwoman! Half check... still grasping this.