Ready... MOVE

Today is my first day off from my first week of work at the new job. Unfortunately, on my day off, I decided to go to a training with Chris because... well, he had training, and I would've been left alone, and honestly, what else have I got to do with my life? Not much, so I attended training with him. :)

The first work week presented many opportunities for me to get used to the routine and system of CSA. The culture is very different from good ol' UC San Diego, but so much more comfortable and supportive. These people thrive on motivation, commitment, passion, and great work ethic. Many of the staff members are athletes, ex-professional athletes, social workers, therapists, folks who know and understand the human experience in ways that are effective with working with children. I don't even really like calling them children, or kids, but that's what they are. Children ages 10-18 that have made decisions that cause them to be placed in a facility like CSA where it's very strict, firm, but dare, I say it, loving. Nurturing these children back to a structured life that they lacked in their own personal lives is the bear necessity of this program, and it works.

I feel like I am in a whirlwind of dreamy expectations and goals. That's not a bad thing, but I am trying to figure out if it's a good thing lol. There is tons of work to be done and I am so eager to get myself situated and organized so that I can achieve all of my goals. 

Speaking of goals, I haven't set any goals for myself this year other than to graduate and get a new job. Now that I've accomplished both, it's high time I set new goals. 

Did I mention that this job is tiring? Like exhausting! I did MPE's with my kids on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday and I literally died every day when I got home after taking a shower. Being active with the kids in their daily environment shows support, and it also establishes rapport. Doing so makes me feel like I carry out an expectation that they are held to carry out also. Social Learning Theory literally has a whole new meaning to me... and it started with definition in my body haha (OUCH). I was so incredibly sore after 18/20s the first two days, sheesh! 

Anyhow, tomorrow will be a full day off where we will rest and maybe run a few errands, but rest none the less. :) Thank you Lord for this wonderful blessing. It truly is a blessing to work around supportive individuals that want the whole team to go up. 

That's so awesome. 

Singing out,
Mrs. Muli 


Monday unlike any other...

Today I woke up around 7:30 but I had nowhere to go. I just opened my eyes, saw the sun shining through the panels on the window and stayed away. I knew today was the last full day I'd have in California because I was becoming a resident of Arizona.

We didn't do much, organized and packed up the cars for the road trip tomorrow. That wasn't as painful as I thought it would be, thank to Chris and his ability to pack up the house while I was finishing out my last days of work at UC San Diego. We had tons of room to spare in the car too! That is, until I realized we still had a few bags of clothes upstairs that had not been considered. Whoops. SMH.

Dad got off around 3pm and during that time I had taken a peaceful midday nap... that was unusual, I don't think I've had one of those in a couple of years lol. Anyhow, I woke up and it was time to go and get some grub, the last supper, with the family.

I chose Roadhouse, a steakhouse since I was craving steak. Unfortunately, the steak wasn't as satisfying as I had hoped, ugh, but I'm still thankful I ate.

It was a bittersweet moment, me sitting there next to my dad, having our last meal together... it was actually kind of sad, in retrospect, but I managed to get through. :)

I slept on a full and satisfied stomach, but I still had some sadness. Sadness that tomorrow I was leaving. Everyone was going to work and I was... well... going to be moving... permanently.




Nine Years A Student...

As I check off the boxes on my To-Do-Before-You-Leave List, I begin to feel the sadness surging through my mind about leaving this job.

I took this job up in October 2005, a year into my undergraduate program. I've been done with school since June 2008, but I feel like I've still been a student. Yeah, I graduated in 2008, and yes, I did move up in ranks with this position from Student Assistant, to Senior Student Assistant, to Student Leader, and now finally Service Desk Coordinator, but some where between the nine years of being in this department my growth was stunted.

Maybe because I have been walking the same stairs to my desk for the past 9 years. Maybe it's because I've eaten lunch at the same food court since I was a student studying in the food court. Maybe it's because when I left campus I still saw tons and tons of students on my alternate transportation to work. Maybe it's because I was shopping with the same students in UCSD sweatshirts at the wee hours of the night even after I graduated.

Somewhere in the past 9 years, I did not really sever the ties of student and staff. I feel like I'm still a student.

This job has offered me tons of life experience as a person and as a professional. I'm very lucky to have had the opportunity to grow in this environment, especially with the amount of flexibility and freedom that I was given from the start.

It's such a bittersweet moment when I realize that I'm leaving all I've known for 9 years.

But it's definitely much sweeter knowing that I am moving on towards a career in the field that I want to be in, that will not require hours of commuting, or meeting about subjects that do not pierce my interest, or attending conferences that are less interesting than the food provided at the social hour, or being around absolutely wonderful people that are crass, sarcastic, and fun to be around, but are not interested in what I want to do.

It's been a long ride, but I'm ready to graduate. From a student, to the real world.

Mrs. Muli


Stay Calm... I'm graduating!

Cheers to the 90-minute commute 2 nights weekly to Azusa and Victorville, to the relocation to Colton to be in between Vic and Daygo, to Hundreds of dollars in school materials, to weeknights with little to no sleep because papers and treatment plans were due, to weekends with no rest bc church duties had to continue, to a honeymoon-LESS wedding due to online assignments and in class participation points (and many other sacrifices towards a dream wedding) to 90 thousand miles driven between San Diego, Colton, Azusa, Laguna Beach, and Victorville and the death of my '02 Honda Accord and the birth of my '13 Honda Accord, to the many nights of rushing to beat the clock for assignment turn ins, to missed birthday parties and family gatherings, missed funerals, cruises, and trips, to fast food dinners that contributed to 20lb weight gain bc there was no time to cook, to weekly reminders and count downs to keep my head held high, to sisterhoods and friendships, to weekly Starbucks dates and dinners to keep my sanity, to 40+ reflection papers, 40 hours of personal psychotherapy, 2 years of high anxiety, tears with clients, troubled children, argumentative couples, depressive symptoms, breakthroughs clinically and most of all personally, humility, transparency and vulnerability, aaaand a wide array of realizations that I am a work in progress for the glory of God.

Today, I graduate simply because I was committed to the vision God gave me in the cold winter of '09 to be His servant through my career and did whatever it took to get here. It took 2 years of community college (after already having a B.A.) and 2 years of this graduate program and a WHOOOOOLE lot of sacrifices... But none of that compares to this day. This reward is so unfathomably sweet.... I thiiiiiink I just gave myself a cavity. 

We can do anything, folks. Be encouraged!

And stay calm, I'M GRADUATING! 


At my doctors appt and there are so many preggers in the lobby! this sort of makes me feel good. I'm at a good place and feel like I will be taken care of here. 😊


I had an entire video snapped for IG about how I made this amazing lasagna and the app malfunctioned. Smh. Anyhow, the final product and the beginning of my own meat sauce :)


Chris and Dess Wedding Video Highlights

My wedding video. <3



Celebrating Kendra :)

2013 at a glance… The Recap

I've had an emotional start to this New Year, struck down but definitely not destroyed. Yesterday my world shattered seeing my husband's devastating response upon learning that his childhood best friend passed away. My heart ached seeing him ache in pain, and it has led me to blog today. We are still dealing with the aftermath of the news, and are in constant thought of our extended family's mental state. Either way, Chris and I knelt in prayer and thanked God that He knows the purpose for all things, and we will not be angry, but we will allow ourselves to be hurt. That is a part of the human experience and we will not deny it, especially when the wound is of this magnitude.

In doing so, I've really begun thinking to myself that at my age now, these things will be come more and more prevalent. Death is inevitable and I will constantly be reminded left and right this year that people whom I love will pass away. They're supposed to. My purpose and conscious effort is to love wholeheartedly on the people I have today so that when they do pass, I am content with keeping their memory alive in place of their physical body. I feel like I normally do that, but thinking about it even more so now, especially as death nears me in intimate relationships. Last year the deacon of our church passed away and I was pretty broken. Though we are not related, the loss was felt so deeply since I interacted with him often, and since he interacted with my family most closely my father. This year, with Chris's best friend passing, it's just one layer closer to my heart that has been tampered with. I am anticipating the death of those closer to me, and doing so with faith that God has my comfort in His hands and will never forsake me in my time of mourning. 

Soooo, I felt as a great start to the year I will start by looking back at 2013 and celebrating my victories over the past year to give me motivation and drive for this new year coming up. :)

JANUARY - welllll, first and foremost, I got married!!!!! What an incredible way to start my year, I rang in the New Year with my husband and my spiritual family. I started my 2nd semester of graduate school, celebrated 2 years of relationship with Chris on the 15th before getting married on the 19th and pretty much had an awesomely wonderful beginning!

FEBRUARY - my birthday month! This month particularly was filled with lots of excitement. First off, my first valentine's day with my husband, although we still weren't even together physically on this day. We didn't do anything, waaah. LOL oh well, "always next year right?" I guess haha. I we celebrated our one month anniversary as a married couple, that was sweet. We went to Idle Spurs, an old higher end restaurant in the High D that I'd been wanting to try since I was younger. The food wasn't necessarily amazing, but it was still yummy. I celebrated my 27th birthday with a surprise birthday dinner with just family at Roadhouse which closed out the month.

MARCH - our first mafutaga out in Oxnard where we actually stayed in the same room together, haha (awww). That felt good. It was like a new achievement in our relationship. I think I had an interview for a practicum site, even though I applied to a few... waiting patiently for God to work his beautiful ways :)

APRIL - This month was crazy. I started blogging again. Yay. I also bought a new car!!!! That was so much fun. I didn't want to get rid of my car, but I ended up having too as advised by Chris. It's hard for me to let go of things, because it's so final. I digress, I bought a brand new Honda Accord '13 in place of my deteriorating Honda Accord '02 with 250k miles of travel on it lol. She did me so well, I'm not even upset :) I also went to Reno and stopped in the Bay Area to visit with fam, Stephen and Maggie, and Mom and Dad for Dad's bday in Reno. Lagima also passed away this month, suddenly, really bringing a lot of sorrow to myself, with the emotional connection I had of losing not just a member of the church member, but a man who was a husband. Thank God, His work has brought healing to our entire church, amen and amen. I also accepted my practicum!!! JUUUUICED about it, the MFT trip just got real!

MAY - Started at my practicum site, a small meeting leading us to what would come next month with a week long training. CRAAAAYYYYY. By the way, I was leeeearning muuuuch about being married. Chris and I were gettin' cray on each other quite often LOL! Fun times.

JUNE - Training and started my practicum while still being in school. I was literally living a crazy life, driving back and forth from Colton to Vic, then to Azusa for class, as well as San Diego, staying the night in lagua. Just straight craaaay cray.

JULY - I don't even remember. Oh, Mom and Dad went to Samoa, this freed up some time for Chris and I to relax, but he had a super terrible gout attack that put us out of commission for an entire month. This is when he stopped eating red meat and I scaled back hella much, but was still eating it (LOL, I'm terrible mental support for him).

AUGUST - We moved out and got into our own new place about a mile away from my practicum site. It also cut my time to Daygo in half, so friggin helpful. It also cut my time on the road to school, and I developed a new relationship with Kendra, a classmate of mine that dates a poly, and started developing mutual trust. That was the beginning of a new :)

SEPTEMBER - AN INTENSE START to a new school year. Purchased books and endured a crazy, AND I MEAN BRUTALLY INSANE start to an oversaturated course load. Like, I wanted to die every single week after realizing that the syllabus for each class literally had me doing 3 big assignments a week, for 5 classes. Just craziness!

OCTOBER - Chris and I went to Sac to spend time with his fam for Taumaia's birthday party. That was super fun, just hangin' with the fam. :)

NOVEMBER - Sister Crystal and Cyana came down to visit with us, and we enjoyed a quick weekend with them. Thankgiving was spent with Chris' family in Reno, that was enjoyable also. I just love being with my other family, it makes Chris happy, and I enjoy seeing him happy with his family. :)

DECEMBER - An awesome month! Chris and I bought our first Christmas Tree!!! a real one! That was an enjoyable experience also, selecting our tree, buying a tree stand, a metal one that Stephen suggested without question! Also we were able to buy gifts for all of our immediate family members, which was nice too :) We spend Christmas with my family in the HighD and enjoyed New Years Eve there as well, counting down til midnight with my spiritual fam, with cider and lots of love :)

I'm grateful for all that 2013 held. I'm thankful for where I am today considering all that happened last year. God never let's me down. God stays good.

On that note. I'm outties :)